Notes to Dearie, 5 August, 2020

Jeffrey Puukka

5 August, 2020
Anthem Park, Vancouver, Washington

Today’s note to ‘Dearie’ offers a reminder in each hand about two tricky bits of being alive.


One of the most powerful tools at our disposal is the question “What if…?”

Many of us feel more ease and liberty in our daydreams than our everyday behavior because when we daydream, we are without many of the inhibitions we chain to our ankles in daily life. Often, as soon as we disrupt our day to day business with a brave idea, our mind’s logical nay-sayer swoops in to shut it down, and keep us safe.

Yet, there are important distinctions to be made between what is necessary safety for our well being, and what is comfortable, habitual stagnation.

The next time you find yourself shutting down a “What if” sort of moment, you might ask yourself “Why?”. Listen closely, and try to determine if the feedback you give yourself is actually coming from your own thinking, or if it is the result of baked-in patterns of thought, which may no longer be serving you.


Forgiveness can feel difficult.

Forgiveness is not always like a light-switch we turn on or off, but can swell or mellow, moving us–and moving through us–like waves. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves, and that’s alright.

Forgiveness is a choice. Choosing forgiveness does not mean that the pain we experienced must stop mattering. Forgiving ourselves or someone else is a choice we take to empower ourselves, and move forward. Not because our experience is less important, but because we are ready to live and identify with new experiences.



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Jeffrey Puukka is an award winning theatre director, living and working in Portland, Oregon.